We’ve all heard the phrase “playing hard to get,” but what about embodying it? Becoming “Miss Hard to Get” isn’t just a game—it’s an art form, a delicate dance between desire and restraint. But let’s clear the air right away: it’s not about manipulation, mind games, or leaving someone hanging on a thread. No, it’s something much deeper and more meaningful.

In a world where everything feels instant and everyone seems easily accessible, there’s something irresistibly magnetic about a person who is, well… a little out of reach. Let’s dive into what it really means to be “Miss Hard to Get” and why it’s not just about attracting others, but discovering a whole new level of self-worth and confidence.


Imagine this, you meet someone who catches your interest. They’re charming, funny, and seem to check off all your boxes. But there’s a catch—they’re not constantly available. They’re not blowing up your phone or constantly in your face, waiting on your every word. Instead, they leave just enough space to make you wonder… and it drives you absolutely wild, doesn’t it?

There’s something deliciously intriguing about someone who doesn’t give away all their cards at once. They’re a puzzle you can’t quite figure out, a mystery wrapped in layers that you desperately want to unravel. But here’s the secret: being “hard to get” isn’t about playing mind games. It’s about having a life so full and fulfilling that you naturally don’t have time to drop everything for someone else. It’s about being so in love with your journey that others are captivated by your energy and presence.

When “Hard to Get” Becomes Self-Respect

Let’s be real—no one likes to be strung along. But there’s a difference between being hard to get and being emotionally unavailable. The true essence of “Miss Hard to Get” is having standards and boundaries. It’s not about pretending to be busy; it’s about actually being busy building the life you want. It’s about prioritizing your growth, interests, and happiness, rather than jumping into the arms of the first person who shows interest.

If someone wants to be part of your world, they’ll make the effort. They’ll climb the metaphorical wall you’ve built—not because it’s high, but because they genuinely want to reach you on the other side. This isn’t about playing with someone’s emotions; it’s about ensuring they’re worth the energy you’ve cultivated for yourself.

The Balance: Vulnerability Meets Boundaries

But let’s get one thing straight—being hard to get doesn’t mean being cold or unapproachable. It’s about finding that sweet spot between being open to love and not being desperate for it. It’s about showing interest without losing yourself in the process. You can be “Miss Hard to Get” and still laugh at their jokes, send a playful text, or share that lingering look that leaves them wanting more.

The key is balance. Be mysterious, but also be kind. Be a little distant, but also warm enough to show that beneath the surface, there’s so much more waiting to be discovered. When you strike this balance, you’ll find that people don’t just want to be around you—they’ll be captivated by the aura you carry.

Why It’s More Than Just a Game

Let’s be honest, in the age of endless swiping and quick flings, real connection is rare. We’ve become so used to instant gratification that we forget the thrill of anticipation. But when you embody the essence of “Miss Hard to Get,” you’re not just playing a role—you’re reminding people that the best things in life are worth the wait.

You’re showing them that genuine relationships aren’t built on text messages that get answered within seconds, or on love that’s given without thought. They’re built on the slow, steady burn of curiosity, admiration, and respect.

Embracing Your Inner “Miss Hard to Get”

So, how can you embrace this persona without turning it into a game? Here’s how:

1. Live a life you’re excited about: Fill your days with activities, passions, and people who make you happy. That way, your availability isn’t forced—it’s simply limited because you’re genuinely busy enjoying your own company.

2. Know your worth: Don’t settle for less than you deserve. Being “hard to get” is about having standards and sticking to them. If someone is truly interested, they’ll rise to meet you at your level.

3. Be authentic: Don’t pretend to be something you’re not. The real magic of being “hard to get” is being unapologetically yourself. If they’re truly intrigued, they’ll be willing to put in the effort.

4. Let go of the fear of being alone: The neediness disappears when you realize you’re perfectly okay on your own. The moment you stop desperately searching for love is often the moment it finds you.

The Takeaway: Be the Flame, Not the Moth

Ultimately, being “Miss Hard to Get” is about knowing that you’re the flame, not the moth. It’s about understanding that you bring something beautiful to the table, and if someone wants a seat, they’ll work for it.

So, the next time you find yourself wondering whether you should text back immediately or clear your schedule for a last-minute date, take a deep breath. Remember that being a little “hard to get” isn’t about playing a role—it’s about embracing your worth and never forgetting that you are, and always have been, the prize.

Now tell me, are you ready to embrace your inner Miss Hard to Get? Or is it time to set your own rules? Let’s chat in the comments—I’m dying to know your thoughts.

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I used to think it was just a number—a countdown to finally being a “real” adult. But now that I’ve crossed that invisible line, I’ve realized that 20 is more than just a new age to scribble on forms and documents. It’s an entire experience—a whirlwind of emotions, questions, and little moments that hit you like plot twists in the story of your life.

So, what really is 20? Let me tell you.

20 is a Confusing Cocktail of Freedom and Fear

Turning 20 feels like you’ve been handed the keys to a door you’ve been dying to open for years. You’re officially no longer a teenager, and there’s something exhilarating about shedding the label. But once you step through that door, you’re faced with a hallway of a thousand more doors, each labelled “Career,” “Relationships,” “Bills,” and the ever-elusive “Who Am I, Really?”

At 20, freedom tastes sweet but also a little scary. You can stay up as late as you want, spend your money however you like, and decide which people deserve to stay in your life. But with every choice comes the creeping anxiety of wondering if you’re doing it right. Am I supposed to have it all figured out? (Spoiler alert: Absolutely not.)

20 is Realizing Your Parents Weren’t Lying

Remember those times your parents would give you “the talk” about saving money, being responsible, and planning for the future? At 20, you suddenly get it. You find yourself Googling terms like “budgeting hacks” and wondering why groceries are so expensive. It’s that moment when you realize adulting is more than just sipping fancy coffee in a cute café while looking chic. It’s paying rent, figuring out taxes, and understanding why your parents kept saying, “You’ll understand when you’re older.”

Well, now you’re older, and yeah… they were right.

20 is the Age of “Almost”

Almost there. Almost grown-up. Almost stable. Almost happy. Turning 20 is like standing on the edge of a cliff, with the vast expanse of your future stretching out before you. The ground behind you is everything you once knew—teenage years, high school drama, and that first awkward love. But the view ahead? That’s uncharted territory. It’s an age where you’re constantly balancing between who you were and who you’re becoming. You’re old enough to be responsible, but young enough to still make mistakes. You’re figuring out what it means to set boundaries, to say no, and to prioritize yourself without feeling selfish.

20 is Learning to Love Yourself (Flaws and All)

If your teenage years were all about trying to fit in, then 20 is about standing out. It’s about shedding the layers of what everyone else expects you to be and starting to figure out what *you* want to be. There’s this beautiful chaos in realizing you don’t have to be perfect—you just have to be you.  At 20, you start embracing those quirks you once tried to hide. You begin to see that the world isn’t waiting for a perfect version of you, but rather for the real, raw, imperfect, *authentic* you. It’s not always easy, but it’s worth it. Trust me on that.

20 is About Falling in Love (and Out of It)

Oh, love at 20. It’s intense, messy, confusing, and oh-so-beautiful. You’ll fall head over heels, sometimes into the wrong arms, but that’s okay. Because every relationship, every crush, every heartbreak teaches you something new about who you are and what you want.

And sometimes, the person you need to fall in love with the most is… yourself.
20 is Just the Beginning

If you’re turning 20 soon, or if you’re already here trying to navigate this crazy, beautiful decade, let me say this: *Relax*. You don’t have to have everything figured out. In fact, you’re not supposed to. Turning 20 isn’t about having a perfect plan. It’s about exploring, experimenting, and embracing the unknown.

This age is your canvas—one where the lines aren’t yet drawn, and the colours are yours to choose. Maybe you’ll get that dream job. Maybe you’ll move to a new city. Maybe you’ll lose people along the way, and maybe you’ll find a new version of yourself that you didn’t even know existed.

So, what is 20?

It’s messy. It’s thrilling. It’s a time to be brave, to make mistakes, to love fiercely, and to grow through it all. It’s a year of figuring out who you are, one awkward, beautiful step at a time.

Here’s to 20

To everyone who’s crossed this line, who’s on their way there, or who’s looking back at it—cheers to you. Embrace every moment, every laugh, every tear. Because, as they say, you only turn 20 once. And it’s a wild ride worth remembering.

So, tell me—what was your “What is 20” moment? Or, if you’re just getting started, what are you most excited (or terrified) about? Share in the comments—I’d love to hear your stories!

I’m proud of us, for getting back up again, even when we thought we couldn’t do it anymore.

I know you are doing the best you can. I know you are scared but you can handle this. Don’t be too hard on yourself, I believe in you. Keep going.

It’s ok if today did not go as planned. Just because it’s taking too long doesn’t mean it’s not happening. Focus on you, your actions, your decisions and your life.

You have so much potential and so many things to do. Better things are coming your way, so please hang in there, you can do it.

When you can’t find the sunshine, be the sunshine. I will always truly completely love you.

You got this!

Now I know why I’m so addicted to my journal. It’s filled with all my rants and ramblings. Just because I wouldn’t want to bother another human with my rants, I’d rather bother my paper and let the world read about it later. I just turned 20 something and I can’t seem to bring myself to accept the stress and confusion that comes with adulthood.

I spent my whole childhood wishing I was older and now I’m spending my adulthood wishing I were younger. As human beings, we all mature physically from childhood to adolescence and then into adulthood, but our emotions lag. I had a wonderful childhood which is tough because it’s hard to adjust to a miserable adulthood.

There is so much to be gained from adulthood! Feelings just become so much deeper. The feeling of sadness and loss is much deeper than when you were a kid, but the feelings of love and happiness have also so much more dimension when you get older…. Part of adulthood is searching for the people who understand you. To most of us, adulthood means being able to earn a living, possess a home, get married and bear children, and this implies having autonomy over one’s life. But today we regard it more as a time of regret and stagnation.

You think that adulthood will hit and you’ll suddenly be more capable. But that doesn’t happen, does it? The secret of adulthood is that 99% of the time you know the right thing to do. We make it hard when we are deciding whether to do the right thing. I think one of the defining moments of adulthood is the realisation that nobody’s going to take care of you. That you have to do the heavy lifting while you are here. And when you don’t, well you’ll suffer the consequences.

Adulthood has its own good and exciting sides but most of the time, the negative sides of adulthood overshadow its positive and exciting sides. Well I think everything happens for a reason and all the things that have happened to me – good, bad – I’m glad they did. It’s made me ready for life, for adulthood.

I believe I owe all the best parts of my adulthood to embracing my imperfections and showcasing them.

But I don’t promise to stop ranting and rambling about being an adult. Trust me, its left me more confused everyday.

What are your rants and ramblings about adulthood?

Thanks for joining me!

Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton