A lie, it’s all lies. I don’t believe you… It can’t be… Stop doing that…
2:36 am! The dreams came back again. It’s been a vicious circle. Over and over again I keep hearing him, I keep seeing him… Stella got up sweaty like she’s been in a fight. For over 3 years now, she hasn’t been able to sleep without having nightmares. Worst of all she can even have them wide awake. Days, weeks, months, and years have passed by and nothing has changed. No progress, just the same old things but worse every day.
She got to the bathroom to wash her face and try to get herself calm. As she looked in the mirror she saw him… he had no face but she could see him. As she turned to look back at him, he was gone. “Why does this keep happening ” she whispered to herself. I can’t keep up like this. She walked back to bed this time sitting and switching all the lights on. Could it be the dark?
The alarm blared and blared but she wasn’t hearing it. Stella! Stella! Stella. She could faintly hear her name, she knew someone called out to her but she couldn’t help herself, she couldn’t answer right back…she was stuck. There’s nothing we can do at this point but wait for her to wake up, the Doctor said. She must have had sleep paralysis and gone into a coma before you guys got to her. Brenda felt weak, It happened again and I’m sure she didn’t take her pills. Why is she doing this…
Brenda wasn’t having it anymore, she was fed up and tired. My daughter is in a coma and I cannot do anything, she cried to Baleria. I told her to stay with me, but she insists on staying alone. Baleria could see Brenda’s pain, she could feel her hurt and saw how helpless she looked. She thinks moving out was the best for her. She needs someone around her. Baleria hugged her tightly, patting her back. It’s ok Brenda, she’ll be fine, she will be.
Stella! Stella! Stella came that whisper again. She could hear him but at that time she wasn’t seeing him. What do you want from me, she screamed. Leave me alone…… Her eyes filled with fear and tears, she couldn’t understand what was going on. Just suddenly there was blood, who’s bleeding, what’s thisssss
Get the oxygen we are losing her, the doctor screamed. Brenda was terrified. Stella, you can’t leave me, you can’t. Baleria tried holding Brenda as she cried calling out to Stella. They put her on oxygen but she wasn’t responding well, they tried to stop the bleeding but they couldn’t understand why she was bleeding from her vagina. The doctor looked scared, you could see the anxiety on his face, he wasn’t sure what next to do… Stellaaaaaaa, Brenda screamed into her ears. Ma’am, please go outside. Take her outside please Baleria. But she wasn’t having it. That’s my only daughter, my joy
6:45 pm! I could hear him, momma. She was finally awake, the bleeding stopped, and she was out of the coma. Stella, we need to get you help. This has gone beyond the hospital and I’m helpless my love. Stella saw she was giving up and had become weak with stress. I’m sorry momma, I’m sorry I put you through all this. I think it’s best I go with him. Just then Brenda looked at her wide-eyed. What are you talking about, you are not going anywhere… we will fight this. Just then, an array of hope was birthed once again.
Stella moved in finally with her mum after being discharged from the hospital. She stayed in the same room with her. This time she didn’t hear him. She slept all through the night and she didn’t see him. It was then she knew, he wanted her alone!
So today I want to write a little appreciation note. It’s been a journey so far for me and I’m glad to go on it with all of you. When I started this blog, trust me I didn’t think I’d get anyone’s interest whatsoever. It was more like an “it’s worth the try thingy”. I want to appreciate everyone who has been constant support to my blog, people who read it, leave out reviews, like my blog, follow my blog and take their time to tell other people about it. I’m so privileged to have you all honestly. I can’t just get enough of you guys because you all have been a form of support and push for me.
The journey hasn’t been easy trust me. I’ve been discouraged along the way. Sometimes I feel maybe I’m not good enough or maybe I’m not just the girl for this. But one thing the past years have thought me is to keep going, and never look back, to embrace criticism and mold it into something better for myself. It’s not easy and I don’t intend to lie about the fact that most times, I just want to stop, give up and let go.
Thank you for everything, thank you for the support and prayers from my family, loved ones, and friends, even those I don’t know. I’m happy to make new connections with people all over the world. It’s a privilege trust me.
Consistency isn’t easy but it’s achievable. That’s what I want to bring to the table. More content that is edifying, positive, helpful, Interactive, interesting, breathtaking, and encouraging.
Thank you for engaging and thank you for making Kams Cottage a reality.
Sarcasm is everywhere! Sarcasm is an ironic or satirical remark tempered by humor. Mainly, people use it to say the opposite of what’s true to make someone look or feel foolish. Sarcasm is all about the context and tone of voice, which is why it works better verbally. It’s something you’ll know when you hear it. It is the secret language that everyone uses when they want to say something mean to your face. A lot of people use sarcasm when they want to insult people and don’t want to come out straight. It’s left for the victim to understand it, take it seriously, or just laugh it over. It saves people the stress of going all out on someone. Just a few ironic words and your good to go. Unfortunately the mean type of sarcasm overshadows the nice sarcasm. People can use it nicely either to compliment someone or tell the person how much they admire them or even as pick-up lines to hit on a girl or a boy.
The amount of sarcasm used by humans is a lot. It’s like a way of life for some people now. I use it quite often as well and it comes with emotions too. Depends on the situation at hand and the atmosphere of the conversation too.
Here is some mean sarcasm you’d hear once in a while or have heard..either way;
1. I wish people came with a 30 seconds trailer, so I can see what I’m getting myself Into
2. Despite the look on my face, you are still talking
3. I’m not lazy, I’m just highly motivated to do nothing
4. I clapped because its finished not because I like it
5. My alone time is sometimes for your safety
6. Sorry for the mean, awful accurate things I said
7. I’m not weird, I’m limited edition
8. āIām not saying I hate you, what Iām saying is that you are literally the Monday of my life.ā
9. āFind your patience before I lose mine.ā
10. āLight travels faster than sound. This is why some people appear bright until they speak.ā
11. āNo, you donāt have to repeat yourself. I was ignoring you the first time.ā
12. Me pretending to listen should be enough for you.ā
13. Youād be in good shapeā¦ if you ran as much as your mouth.ā
14. My silence doesn’t mean I agree with you. It’s just that your level of ignorance has rendered me speechless
15. Sometimes I meet people and feel bad for their dog.”
16. Sometimes I want to go back in time and punch myself in the face.”
17. It’s amazing how clean my house can get when I’m pissed off.”
18. The older I get the less surprised I think I’d be if a random body part just fell off one day.”
Honestly, if sarcasm could burn calories it would burn a lot of it. No need for the gym or dieting anymore. Weight loss would be a lot easier. Sarcasm every morning, afternoon, and night is just perfect…lol
Better than any prescription a doctor can give…. lol
I tried to be good but turns out I get bored easily. I have been putting a lot of thought into it and I just don’t think being an adult is going to work for me. I’m still tired from yesterday’s tired. Today isn’t looking so good and I’ve already used up tomorrow’s tired. I stopped waiting for the light at the end of the tunnel and lit that moron up myself.
My reality check just bounced. I have it all together, I just forgot where I put it. I’m not clumsy, it’s just that the floor hates me, the table and chairs are bullies and the wall gets in my way.
I’m the same age as old people. My day just gets ruined by adult responsibilities. Who let me adult by the way? Cos I can’t adult. Adulting is overpriced and overrated. Would not recommend it. I’m not lazy too, I’m on energy-saving mode.
So today I wanted to write something different, something relatable, something intriguing, something lovely. You know how lonely it can be when you have nobody, you are alone with no one to chat with, laugh with, go out with, play games with, read with, tell your stories to, show your works to, get excited with!
I’ve come to realize that Christmas is a season to be with the ones you care about, with your family, your siblings, your spouse, your girlfriend or your boyfriend, and your friends in general. Boy, we’ve all been away from home chasing our dreams, studying at school, trying to make a living, and making ends meet. The year has been a hustle for us, while for some it has been smooth.
We may have lost someone, someone very dear to us, someone very special but one thing’s for sure, they wouldn’t want to see us sad, all alone, and still wallowing in our misery. Get up, sweetheart. Go home and be with your loved ones.
If this is the first Christmas you’d take seriously, spend it with each other and prepare for the next year again with each other…..
This time of year can be really hard and overwhelming for different reasons.
Umm…
Growing up is hard and I feel like holidays are where it hits the hardest. The world kind of forces you to have this expectation of the perfect, most beautiful, most family-oriented, most sparkly Christmas. But sometimes, that’s just not real life.
So human,
If the light seems a little dim this year, I’m just popping in to remind you to listen to that cute little heart of yours and take care of yourself okay?
You are allowed to set boundaries, you are allowed to change the cycles of the past, and you are allowed to be the fiercest, hottest, biggest advocate for your happiness because you deserve to be happy and you deserve to be at peace this year.
I love you so much!!!
Oh I got you something š
We’ll get through this, my friend. Here’s a hand to hold.
What happens under the mistletoe, stays under the mistletoe.
Terry couldn’t stop thinking. It’s another holiday and the house is decorated, the streets are decorated, everyone is in a jolly mood, Christmas carols here and there. Terry always stared at the Mistletoe hanging on the cottage door outside.
So this Christmas, Terry decided to use the mistletoe magic. But there were rules and he knew he had to follow them. He hurried up to the library in search of the mistletoe magic rule book. I need to get this right, he said to himself…
He can’t miss a rule if not, it’s all over. He would lose his love forever or wait until next Christmas…… Some other guy might have her so it’s almost the same thing.
The book rules read
Believe in the magic of the Mistletoe
Keep calm under the mistletoe
Watch where you step, watch where you go and you’ll end up under the mistletoe
Kiss me under the mistletoe
What happens under the mistletoe stays under the mistletoe
He had to get it all right. Stacy was coming over for dinner so he can take her to the mistletoe at their cottage door and get it all done.
Stacy has been Terry’s childhood friend, turned crush up until senior year in high school. He just needed to tell her how he felt about her before they go to college and probably become a couple. Stacy and her family arrive for dinner. All through dinner, Terry couldn’t focus. He kept tossing the food on his plate with the spoon. He was anxious. Stacy noticed it but didn’t say anything to him but stared at him at intervals hoping he’d look up and see her staring. Mid-way into dinner Terry excuses himself and takes Stacy outside through the back door. Stacy was extremely happy but hid it so Terry wouldn’t notice. They walked slowly and carefully to the cottage door, this is rule number 3. They got to the mistletoe and Terry was as calm as possible, that’s rule number 2.
Terry asks Stacy if she believes in the mistletoe magic and she said she did tho she never tried it, now that’s rule number 1. He was making progress. Terry tells her his feelings with all calmness and courage and she laughed.
What’s funny he asks. I feel the same way too silly. You didn’t have to go through all this drama to tell me, she teased him. Now everything is going wrong he thought. Thank God, “do not make fun of the mistletoe” wasn’t part of the rules.
Stacy looked deeply into his eyes and smiled. I never imagined my Christmas to be any better. I’ve always longed and wished you told me how you felt. What took you so long Terry? I’ve always dreamt of kissing you under the mistletoe and now I’m so excited to do it. Merry Christmas my Terry, she said and kissed him passionately.
Terry felt at ease and very warm. He was happy it all turned out well. He whispers to her ears, “what happens under the mistletoe stays under the mistletoe”. I love you, Stacy…
I’m dreaming of a white Christmas just like the ones I used to know where the treetops glisten and children listen to hear sleigh bells in the snow. It’s the most wonderful time of the year, the best time to spread Christmas cheer by singing loudly for all to hear. Christmas waves a magic wand over the world making everything softer and more beautiful.
You kinda owe it to yourself to do all the things that you’ve dreamed of. Christmas isn’t a season, it’s a feeling. Everything is crystal clear with great cheer and snow flakes everywhere. Today I wanted the decorations to be crystal white. White Christmas trees, white reindeer, white Santa, white Christmas bells, white elves, even a white mistletoe, I want it all white. The excitement is just so extreme I don’t want it to end. Honestly, I just want to go outside and wash my feet, my hair and my hands with snow. Winter is a slow heartbeat; an aged murmur of lifelong love. Snowflakes are kisses from heaven and I gladly take them. And because I’m so generous and kind, I’ll send you a blizzard of snowflakes through Santa from heaven..if that makes sense..lol
Christmas is the day that holds all time together. It’s time to switch from your regular anxiety to your fancy Christmas anxiety. A little more sparkle, a little less stress. This Christmas I wish you the very best.
It’s always a pleasure to share these pages with like-minded people. I’m excited to Introduce some amazing guest writers here to share their wisdom with my readers. We have THE.INTROVERTED_SHEš¦, JAHZ_RHYTHM, MANDY, and my humble self, KAMS COTTAGE. When they accepted my invitation to share their wisdom with y’all I was thrilled and believe me, you will be too. There’s just so much to learn and trust me it’s worth your time.
KAMS COTTAGE
Romeo and Juliet have always been one of the couples used to set standards for relationship and intimacy, you know that Euphoria that just engulfs every part of you. Honestly, there’s a lot more to relationships than just romance, fairy tale and movie-inspired expectations. Relationships are unique to each partner. You can’t use that of other couples to set standards for yours. What works for them won’t work for you. A relationship isn’t about having another person complete you but coming to the relationship whole and sharing your life interdependently. By letting go of the romantic idea of merging and becoming “one“, you learn as Rainer Maria Rilke says, to love the distance in a relationship as much as the togetherness.
JAHZ_RHYTHM
Truly, It is something to write about ā how strangers become lovers and lovers strangers. Donāt you find it intriguing how strange people meet for the first time and get sparks or connections, some even fall in love but sometimes, those feelings donāt last and that person you thought was the only one that could make you laugh can also make you cry. People get into relationships expecting much more love than they receive but some fail to put in the effort needed. This is why getting into a relationship shouldnāt be based on some momentary feeling or vibe. Relationship of any kind requires effort. You have to put in the work. If you donāt feel like youād be able to do that, then thereās no need to get into one. You donāt get into a relationship just because you are bored or lonely or missing an ex. If you want excitement, hit the gym, go swimming, go sky diving and all of that. We shouldnāt be breaking hearts like it is some cheap cookie. Intentionality cannot be taken away from relationships. Every successful marriage heard of has had to deal with issues at some point. The success of a marriage is hinged on two people who know they love each other and have decided to commit their love to this person even through dark times and moments. Somewhere in our heads, Mr. or Ms Right is some perfect person with no flaws and thatās why at little conflicts, we want to opt-out and run away to find another Ms Or Mr flawless perhaps. This is where we miss it. Itās not a thing of looking for someone else when challenges pop up, Itās facing challenges ā both of you working on yourselves, your characters, understanding your love language and speaking it. I believe love is a driving force cause without the presence of love, you wouldnāt see the need to build a future with them. You would just keep chilling and selfishly getting whatever you feel you get from each other and thatās chaotic. The whole lovey-dovey feeling can be overwhelming. Thatās why the phrase ālove is blindā is used a lot. When you are in love, the butterflies are still young and active, forgiveness is easy and you just want to spend the rest of your life with them without thinking well or doing the necessary research. Be wise about your decisions even though some things we tag as red flags are not necessarily red flags. You could be all in, putting in all the effort and your partner is giving you some vibe that doesnāt match your energy. The first thing to do is communicate. Of course, you canāt eliminate communication with words when speaking of any kind of relationship ā so, it is vital to communicate your feelings and opinions with your partner. If the relationship was built on the same foundation, you would see them put in the effort to be better. Yelling, slamming doors, and giving attitude are listed among the most misunderstood forms of communication. Confronting situations up front with a lower voice tone has proven over time to be more effective in communicating. You also should be able to accept your partnerās confrontations and not think you are right all the time. People are scared to do this. So any form of conflict becomes a red flag when it is something that could be worked on as long as both parties are in agreement. Even though love and relationship cannot be solved with a straight-line map, some principles have worked over time and have kept couples happy and satisfied with their marriage when there will always be conflicts in a relationship. If the relationship has been defined, an effort is being made, communication and patience are there. If your partner still doesnāt care about how you feel, for the sake of your happiness, that person might not be the best for you. Iām not saying you can’t change anybody, but there are some traits that you know you got to have in a person like do they love God, are they teachable, humble (cause pride donāt go easy), are they compliant, do they respect your opinion, do they respect people? Are they ambitious? These will help you know if you both can work together. Statistics showed that people who had a higher level of character development were happier couples from the beginning of the relationship. Work on yourself first before trying to fix another person. And donāt get into a relationship hoping to be a baby project. One of you is going to get drained. We often have expectations from our partners that we are not willing to work on the same things for ourselves, and then they become the bad person. Iron sharpens iron. Know your worth too and donāt pick people out of pity for yourself. Low self-esteem has made people do things they are not meant to do and they will stay in abusive relationships, relationships that donāt grow them or make them better people cause they donāt know their value.
the.intoverted_sheš¦
āLove is the most beautiful thing when it happens to you unexpectedly but it never gets real until you do it on purposeā
Once upon a time, I used to get a lot of attention from guys, I didnāt understand why and it annoyed me so much. I used to hear a lot of āI love youāsā and even though I didnāt know what it was then, I knew they never meant it. I could look each guy in the face and tell him āyou donāt know what youāre saying.ā
Have you ever been in love? I have. And I know very well how things could go when one party decides they donāt want to work for it.
Iām probably the biggest hopeless romantic I know. I believe that you can have the āfiction kindā of romance. Where the man is the sweetest human to exist, both of you serenade each other with words and actions and the purest heartfelt gestures that just continuously remind you of how much you love and are loved. Iām big on romance, and when I say romance, I mean ROMANCE.
Iām a believer so Iāll never be able to separate the two ā that is my faith and romance. I mean, King Solomon did talk about romance in the bible so itās no sin. Thereās just context.
You lots probably believe romance isnāt complete without sex but I beg to differ. Romance ā intimacy ā is so much more than just skin against skin. Itās that song that reminds you of your partnerās smile. Itās in the scent that reminds you of their favourite outfit. Itās in that food that you only eat because it reminds you of your partner. Itās in the little texts you leave each other in between work just so you both feel included in your day. It’s in that movie that you two have named yourselves because of the day you watched it. Itās in the favourite spot you two share because it reminds you of when you caught yourself tripping.
It’s In the way you look at each across the room and carry each other in your hearts and actions because itās such an honour to have your own. Itās that pride in your tone when you get the slightest opportunity to brag about how wonderful your partner is as a human and even to you.
I could go on forever. Love is commitment. Itās more than the initial tickly feelings that make you want to curl up on your bed and hug a pillow all day. To love is to commit. Intimacy is built in the place of wanting to remain committed. And the best part? None of it happens until you make the conscious decision to work on it. So many people fancy the idea of love without realizing that even when you are head over heels in love, without effort, without deliberately showing up every day, youāre not going to have anything to hold on to.
The one minute you decide to stop being deliberate is the very minute the whole thing crumbles to the ground. Itās why Iād like to say that āsoul mateā is a myth. If you find someone that you think is THE one and you donāt show up, that person is just going to keep moving ahead until they find the one whoās willing to make it work.
Human beings are social animals. We exist to socialize. Itās okay to admit that you crave companionship, we were built that way. Now, youād be an arrogant fool to want to deny that. But also, if you want it, you have to be willing to work for it. For most people, these days, if you take out the sex and physical touch, thereās nothing left to name as intimacy.
Donāt you think thereās something off about that?
KAMS COTTAGE
Honestly, I agree with the.introverted_sheš¦ on this one, you know the intentionality to make it work. Intimacy isn’t always about sex. The basis of your relationship shouldnāt be laid on sex. So does it mean without sex, the relationship goes sour and dies off? There are a lot of ways to create intimacy, find pure love and be truly happy in your relationship, but I’ll just list five. One thing is to be in a relationship and it’s another thing to be happy in that relationship.
1. See your partner for who he or she is: most times we set our expectations and standards of our partners whom we are in love with, with what they have come to represent. The truth is, at the beginning of a relationship, both parties are trying to impress the other. They are not who they are at the eclipse of the relationship. When you realise that more often than not you don’t know your partner, you begin to discover who they are and how they change and evolve.
2. Be willing to learn from each other: the key is to see the other as a mirror and learn from the reflection how you can be a better person. Rather than get upset or point fingers, try to be calm. Understand and observe them. Remain awake to what has yet to be healed in each other
3. Be comfortable being alone: I know how hard this part is trust me but in other to accept the fact that love can’t rescue you from being alone, learn to spend time being with yourself. You must not be with each other 24/7. You both have a life to live outside yourselves, come on! You must not text or call every single day. By doing so, you feel safer and secure being on your own within the framework of your relationship.
4. Let go of expectations: this cannot be overemphasised. You may look to things such as romance and togetherness to fill a void in yourself. This will cause you suffering trust me. If you unconsciously expect to receive love in certain ways from your partner, you’ll be so disappointed and you’ll end up putting your sense of security in him/her. Draw upon your inner resources to offer love, attention and nurturance to yourself when you need it then you can let the love come to you instead of putting expectations on what it needs to look like.
5. Effective communication: just like Jahz_rhythm mentioned earlier, communication and not just communication but Effective communication helps grease the wheels of relationships, it helps strengthen respect for each other. People are emphatic. They can understand on a very subtle level when something is wrong. It takes misunderstandings away and builds trust as well.
MANDY
Have you ever thought that you may be the reason why your partner is acting up? You may say āthatās ridiculous! Iām the perfect partner, but maybe youāre not focusing on little factors that go a long way. The emotional perspective of your partner either the male or the female on things differs. There are certain things you do that deem normal, but your partner hates them.
To be very honest, lack of attention is one of the major reasons for quarrels and disagreements in relationships. Your partner wants attention from you, and most times it’s always the women seeking that attention but men crave attention too. Your partner may love you to frequently call, text, go on dates, hang out and the rest of them. But here’s the big question. How long do you stay on the call? What do you guys talk about? Are you patient enough to listen to his/her rambles? Do you forget any little detail he/she tells you? Do you rather do other stuff than spend quality time with your partner??!
In a long-distance relationship where you donāt see each other often, try to keep up the communication at least daily. A call or even a romantic text in the middle of a workday goes a long way in building intimacy in your relationship.
KAMS COTTAGE
Honestly, there are a lot of things to be said in relationships from different angles. We’ll get to have more deep discussions like this on them from time to time. I’m super happy and personally had a lot of fun doing this with our guest writers, and look forward to doing this again with them. Do drop a comment on ways you think can help build relationships and intimacy.
Don’t spend so much time trying to be physically attractive just to impress your partner. Instead, work on being mentally attractive. Educate yourself, address your recurring toxic thoughts, deal with your insecurities and learn to be happy on your own.
Normalise saying “NO” without having to over-explain yourself. If someone is offended by your boundaries, that’s their problem, not yours. The best weight you’ll ever lose is the weight of other people’s opinion of you. Don’t subscribe to other people’s definition of “FUN”. FUN is yours, create and define it.
Before you get married, discuss bills, parenting styles, credit, debts, how to deal with family, what beliefs should be instilled in your kids, childhood traumas, sexual expectations, partner expectations, financial expectations, family health history, career and education, political views and whatever deems important. Love is not enough!
Heal before having kids so your kids don’t have to heal from having you as a parent.
I’m proud of us, for getting back up again, even when we thought we couldn’t do it anymore.
I know you are doing the best you can. I know you are scared but you can handle this. Don’t be too hard on yourself, I believe in you. Keep going.
It’s ok if today did not go as planned. Just because it’s taking too long doesn’t mean it’s not happening. Focus on you, your actions, your decisions and your life.
You have so much potential and so many things to do. Better things are coming your way, so please hang in there, you can do it.
When you can’t find the sunshine, be the sunshine. I will always truly completely love you.
“Life is a chess match. Every decision that you make has a consequence to it”. I sat by my window, with so much thought in my head. I stood up after a while and walked straight to the mirror, looked at myself and realised how many qualities I have, how distinct I was, and how unique and important I was. I was known for making unexpected moves, I had peculiar traits and I knew it. I always got comments like, “your character is unpredictable and that makes you dangerous”. I thought deep about it today, but I realised that it doesn’t only make me dangerous, it makes me a Knight. People always said that my quirky nature was very displeasing but that’s what makes me attractive, that’s what stands me out in the crowd. Who knows, quirky routes might be the key to most life situations.
I got tired of standing and walked over to the kitchen to make myself a burger, then I thought, why try to break the wall when I can jump over it and I realised that, that was what I had been doing all this while. Life isn’t that difficult you know. If you just look deeper and deeper you’d see clear solutions to your problems and instead of creating another mess, you would avoid them and get away from the one you’ve found yourself in. It’s been a while since I did some self-reflection, I said to myself. While in my thoughts, I was done making my burger. I walked over to the fridge to get some cool lemonade because boy! the weather was extremely hot. Took my snack to the table to do more self-reflection.
A little confusion and erratic behaviour are sometimes good you know because you become unpredictable and your behaviour inconsistent. Don’t get me wrong, it isn’t entirely good but it can come in handy sometimes. In life, not everyone should be able to predict your next move, acting a little confused in some situations in life can save you a whole lot of stress. Trust me that is my super power. I don’t think you can kill me easily. But then I value collaboration. No man is an island. I respect team work and trust me, it saves you a lot of stress. So long as the goal is to positively achieve something, I’ll give you my all. I’m always actively involved and I appreciate diversity. I have to be active and engaged from the start to get whatever work it is done. I’m also very plain and honest and thereby I detest being lied to or played. Life is that simple but unfortunately dishonesty makes it quite difficult. Imagine a world of honest people… Boy oh boy!
Almost done with my snack I get a text from my friend Terry, the text said, “I think maybe you should just observe than participate, that doesn’t mean you are not still part of the team”. I laughed so loud and it dawned on me, I can’t just be an observer. Off sidelines, I have very little value, I can’t function when I’m out of the action, no it doesn’t work that way. Think of it this way, you have a job but you are not part of the action of that job, your just observing rather than taking part. I would be miserable and that is what Terry is trying to make me? No way. I rather not even be in a team where I am sidelined. But when I’m in a centralised outpost I feel and become very essential and ready to pounce on any opportunity that comes my way. Once I’m ready to pile in you’ll know it, I’m that plain and easy to work with and understand. My principles are very simple. I texted Terry back and told him I’m leaving the team. You can’t dull my shine I laughed to myself.
Ok now i’m done with my snack, I went into the garden to take a little walk and get some fresh air despite the very hot weather. I was hoping to get a little breeze across my skin. I took an umbrella with me tho ‘cos the sun was pretty annoyed and I wasn’t going to fall prey to sunburn when I’m most definitely not the one who upset you, Mr Sun, I chuckled. Walking and touching the flowers as I passed by I began to think again, I’m a Multitasker. I enjoyed it as well and come to think of it, it sounds pretty weird but I couldn’t help it. I love getting a lot of work done at the same time. I’m also very strategic and tactical in my work and in the way I operate. I’m a very careful thinker and you can’t fool me easily. Even with the littlest things, I think carefully about them. But at the same time, I’m also very enigmatic, I’m quite mysterious and difficult to understand or interpret and I become this when it’s necessary.
You know, I believe every human being on earth is a pawn. Just as each pawn in chess has its characteristics, so do humans and it would amaze you what pawn you have similar traits with. This little self-reflection has brought to my notice what pawn I am and with each unique character, you can adapt to life and solve life problems amicably. They have their downsides yes, but look at the bright side. The truth is, like I said earlier, life is like a chess match. You play to win and if you snooze, you lose.
Each pawn is unique but I chose to be a NOBLE KNIGHT.
Ever wondered how it feels to be a bride or a groom? The soft rush of excitement all over your body. The euphoria, the expectations, and the dreams starting to unfold gradually.
It’s my wedding day, your wedding day, our day. The silent mystery is yet to unfold. Alot of questions will run through your mind. Yes, I love her, yes I love him. I can’t see myself spending one second without my lover. But perhaps, suppose this happened on your wedding day!
How would you feel when engulfed with so much excitement your groom or bride doesn’t arrive? How would feel when filled with so much hope, that your bride or groom leaves you out on the alter? How would you feel when with so many expectations your bride or groom holds back the sacred promise “I do”. How would you feel when your wedding dress doesn’t fit? How would you feel when your wedding suit is undersized? How would you feel when the reception hall was never set and ready? How would you feel when your wedding cake falls in the mud?
A lot can happen on your wedding day. It’s an unpredictable, excitable, nervous, therapeutic moment. Suppose a negative happening occurs and the positive gets buried in the ground. Can you overcome it or would it overcome you?
How would you feel when your spouse refuses to put the ring down your fingers, the symbol of your love and commitment? How would you feel to find your spouse in bed with another? How would you feel if this and a lot more happened?
Suppose this happened on your wedding day, would you fall or find a way to fix things?
“I’m here”, “he whispers”. “You can talk to me or not talk to me, but I’m here”. I looked at him as a friend until I realised I loved him. I look at you and I just love you and It terrifies me. It terrifies me what I would do for you. He looked at me like there was something in me worth looking at. I saw home in his eyes and I found love in his smile. I felt scared. Should I give in to this intense feeling? My mind is fighting this, but my heart and my body speak otherwise. Would he hurt me? Should I give in?
He sees through my fears and doubts, he looks through my weary eyes and speaks softly, “My darling, you will never be unloved by me, you are too well tangled in my soul”. He touched me and it felt as if the stars were dancing across my skin. “If we fall, we fall together”, “he whispered to my ears”.
I looked into his eyes. Something about him made me feel a little more alive and less lost. His eyes and the way he smiles just calm every part of me. “I’m not good at telling people how I feel”, “I said shyly”. “But this is what I have to say. I laugh harder with you, I feel more myself with you. I trust you with me, the real me. When things go wrong and bizarre, you are the first person I want to talk to, I-I-I…shhhhhh”, “he hushed me”.
“I want the side of you that you don’t show anyone else. I know you are scared but I’m ready to wait and help you be bold. I love you with every part of me. I don’t think you understand how beautiful you make my world just by existing in it. I hate the idea of anyone else having you. Even if we make eye contact for a split second, it means the world to me”.
It is the connection we both can’t explain. So let’s just ride with it. Walk down the aisle with me my love, hold my hand and let me hold yours. At this point, I knew for sure, that this is true love…..
Now I know why I’m so addicted to my journal. It’s filled with all my rants and ramblings. Just because I wouldn’t want to bother another human with my rants, I’d rather bother my paper and let the world read about it later. I just turned 20 something and I can’t seem to bring myself to accept the stress and confusion that comes with adulthood.
I spent my whole childhood wishing I was older and now I’m spending my adulthood wishing I were younger. As human beings, we all mature physically from childhood to adolescence and then into adulthood, but our emotions lag. I had a wonderful childhood which is tough because it’s hard to adjust to a miserable adulthood.
There is so much to be gained from adulthood! Feelings just become so much deeper. The feeling of sadness and loss is much deeper than when you were a kid, but the feelings of love and happiness have also so much more dimension when you get older…. Part of adulthood is searching for the people who understand you. To most of us, adulthood means being able to earn a living, possess a home, get married and bear children, and this implies having autonomy over one’s life. But today we regard it more as a time of regret and stagnation.
You think that adulthood will hit and you’ll suddenly be more capable. But that doesn’t happen, does it? The secret of adulthood is that 99% of the time you know the right thing to do. We make it hard when we are deciding whether to do the right thing. I think one of the defining moments of adulthood is the realisation that nobody’s going to take care of you. That you have to do the heavy lifting while you are here. And when you don’t, well you’ll suffer the consequences.
Adulthood has its own good and exciting sides but most of the time, the negative sides of adulthood overshadow its positive and exciting sides. Well I think everything happens for a reason and all the things that have happened to me – good, bad – I’m glad they did. It’s made me ready for life, for adulthood.
I believe I owe all the best parts of my adulthood to embracing my imperfections and showcasing them.
But I don’t promise to stop ranting and rambling about being an adult. Trust me, its left me more confused everyday.
What are your rants and ramblings about adulthood?
Ever wondered what role the media has to play in our day-to-day lives? Let’s start by first knowing what the media means.
What is the media?
The term media, which is the plural of medium, refers to the communication channels through which we disseminate information like news, music, movies, education, promotional messages and other data. It includes physical and online newspapers and magazines, television, radio, billboards, telephone, the Internet, fax and billboards.
Everything ranging from a telephone call to the evening news on television can be called media. The media can be categorised into two main parts which are the broadcast media and the print media.
The broadcast media
The broadcast media ranges from Radio and television which have been in existence since the 20th-century respectively. Now, this tv and radio only get better with technology. We have coloured TVs now other than the regular back and white back in time. We have radios even on our smartphones… Life only got better and it’s not long before the internet takes over, say some sources, that’s if it’s not happening already.
The print media
Print Media includes all types of publications, including newspapers, journals, magazines, books and reports. It is the oldest type, and despite suffering since the emergence of the Internet, is still used by a major proportion of the population.
Why is the media important
The media has so much importance trust me. One that has made life a lot easier. The media keep everyone updated about the happening around us and in the world at large. It’s the best medium to reach a mass audience all at once. A vast majority of people, all across the world, rely upon various sources of media for keeping themselves updated on various ongoing issues around the world. Media plays an important role for the whole society.
1. It plays a constructive role in society by raising awareness. Presently, there are many examples of social issues that have been raised by the media. When the media presents and unveils such issues, the public becomes aware and the necessary steps are taken for resolving those issues!
2. Media ignites awareness in us by providing information and knowledge. It does not enforce its own opinion on us but provides facts, figures and news to us so that we can analyze the information and understand it as well.
3. Any live event happening right now can be watched anywhere. For example, the FIFA World Cup, a political address by a PM,Ā live coverage of areas affected by floods or just any other incident or natural disaster, helps us see the true picture by providing LIVE or recorded telecasts for almost all important events. Amazing right?
4. One of the most important roles of media is to educate society. We can explore and analyze various product reviews, do price comparisons for various items, and read news about politics, fashion, war, weather, health and much more with the help of the media. It also educates people about their rights and duties and helps enforce the law as well.
There are a lot more important roles the media plays in our lives, community, society, country and world at large. And for that, we appreciate the media for making life a lot more Informative
You can write the importance of the media in your own opinion right down in the comment section. Thank you for joining me again.
When we say we would love life less scripted, what do we mean? It differs for each person you know.
How would you feel to live a free and less burdensome life? A life where you can do whatever you want. No authorities over you, nobody to tell you to do this and do that. Nobody dictates what you should have and not have. A life with less pressure and more peace. A life where you can make your money without so much demand. Maybe money should have seasons when it should grow. Then you’d just have to wait each season for each currency. Maybe the rainy season would yield Dollars, then the dry season Naira, Autumn pounds and winter Kuwait.
Life would be a lot easier. You eat whatever you want, no government to dictate anything for you. Parents don’t tell you what to do.
Well as good as that can sound, it wouldn’t be much fun. If money could grow on trees then it wouldn’t have value anymore. If there weren’t any good (emphasis on good) government, I guess they’d be chaos, a lot of bad decisions, and peoples’ opinions wouldn’t matter ‘cos everyone just does their own thing. If parents wouldn’t scold you or tell you what to do then you grow up stupid. If you could make money without working for it that’s good tho but it wouldn’t show any responsibilities on your part.
But all the same, everyone has a different opinion. This is what I think and more. I feel like without these certain factors, life would be boring and disorganised, no fun and tiring.
But rather maybe a little bit of healthy freedom would do. Making the right decisions, acknowledging some important facts, working for your own money, and letting certain personalities in your life that could help your growth. To me, that’s the perfect definition of a life less scripted.
Certain businesses focus on short-term management in preference to long-term development. Unfortunately, they have been labelled the ones who are responsible for the financial crisis because they do not assist a viable evolution of the local economy. Several kinds of research show that short-term management is most likely to harm the businesses themselves and also their investors and clients. Some companies can be grouped into short-term acquainted, Companies like business services, banking services, technology gadgets and broad-selling stores, while long-term companies include medical, food, retail and products. Short-term management is popular because people tend to be prudent and abrupt when it comes to their money, and therefore they invest in stuff that will give them back short-term profits. This is quite anticipated, being pertinent to the dubiety of any startup’s future pay-off. The longer the development strategy of the business, the greater the risks and the less trust it generates. This vicious circle is not good, because it doesnāt allow startups to become big enterprises, who aim at long-term management strategies.
Companies who have chosen to go after short-term management attracts short-term investors, being forced to cope with a whole new list of risks from economical and financial development perspectives. In the long run, these are not the problems of the long-termers. Big, long-term-oriented enterprises usually invest in big projects that will be going on for so many years.
Short-term managed companies face the risk of more unstable income and a vaguely estimated moment of success and growth. Entrepreneurs must understand that concentrating on short-term management will mostly interest short-term investors, further building up a short-term managerial attitude on the market, and placing the business in a riskier alcove.
A long-term management approach for your company must become a compulsory part of your strategy, to attract a long-term oriented investor base. Larger and richer firms indeed tend to be more long-term-oriented, because they already instil financial confidence through their size.
I know how demanding it can be to be extra careful with our underwear, especially with females who are more prone to infections than males. So here are 5 helpful tips to take care of your underwear.
Always wash your underwear; How often should you wash your underwear? Your underwear should be washed after every use. Because your underwear comes in contact with your skin, sweat and discharge from you know, down there. Washing them immediately after every use keeps them squeaky clean and smelling fresh.
Do not repeat the same underwear too many times; This may sound unimportant but to help make your underwear last longer and reduce tears, avoid wearing the same underwear too many times, especially your tights.
Separate the darker colours from the lighter ones; Most times we think underwear with darker colours don’t bleach but hey! Itās hard to tell sometimes. Always separate the dark-coloured underwear from the light-coloured ones while washing and also while storing them in your closets or bags.
Wash by hand; Sometimes we feel too tired to wash our underwear by hand and so toss them along with our clothes in the washing machine. It is preferable to wash your underwear by hand to prolong their lifetime. Washing machines can tear and affect the fitting of your underwear negatively.
Fold your underwear; This may sound funny but folding your underwear will prolong its lifetime. Just stacking them in a closet or squeezing them in a bag can affect their fitting negatively.
A clean and hygienic underwear is one of the keys to a healthy body. Take good care of your underwear today.
Ever thought of some attractive ways to put your kidsā toys away? Check out these handy tips and ideas to aid you organize the kidsā toys and create more space in your home.
Pair Similar toys together in a place: Kids are very smart and learn very fast. It may surprise you how your kids notice where each pair of like toys are kept. Gather similar toys together and put them in a place. For example, putting the dolls and teddy together, trains, cars, trucks and its like together. Just like that till each similar toy is put neatly together in a place. This way, it makes cleaning easier and fun for you and your kids and also helps your kids know where each toy goes. Depending on the size and layout of your home, you can decide to have a whole room dedicated to your kidsā toys and even preferably converted to their playroom.
Minimise the number of toys you buy for your kids: This trick works every single time. The fewer toys available, the less mess created. Curb the number of toys your kids have access to play with and thank me later. Here are ways to minimise toys: ā¢ Buy fewer toys for your kids ā¢ Do away with damaged and broken toys ā¢ Give out toys no longer in use but in good condition.
Invest in Furniture and toy storage facilities: There are very attractive, cute and stylish ways to organise and put your kids toys away. Consider investing in getting a shelf built and painted in lovely colours and stack your kidsā toys neatly in them. Remember, put the same toys together. You can also get a basket or a bin too and trust me this is another cute way to put toys away. You can put toys like building blocks in the basket or bin. Always remember, the fewer toys available, the less mass created.
So there you have it, some cute tips to help organize your kidsā toys and reduce the amount of mess made. Have fun organizing now!
“Mum, you know her?” Blake asks. Diane smiled and whispered to her, “is this the Blake?” She nodded still perplexed. “Ok, Blake, I’ll leave you two now, met her crying at the library. Oh dear, ok mum thanks”. Diane leaves and Blake sits next to Cara. “Hey, are you ok?”
Cara found herself stammering. “Ok ok, calm down now. I know how bad you must be feeling. But don’t think too much about it ok?” Blake consoled. Cara looked into his eyes and once again got lost in them. “Are you listening?”
“Oh God, I’m sorry I I I was, it’s fine. I’m glad you are ok now Cara”. Blake at this point couldn’t stop staring at Cara too. Her green eyes, clear skin, and beautiful smile. “Cara, I know you got distracted because of me. And I came here to tell you how much I like you too. But I never got the chance to until now”. Blake takes her hair and slides it behind her ear. Cara stopped breathing, she was shocked to her spine.
Maybe this was meant to happen, get sent out of class and get close to Blake. They looked at each other so deeply. Blake reached out for a kiss and Cara felt a slow rush in her belly, it was magical. Cara felt peaceful again, she felt less tension, she looked back at Blake and said “I like you too Blake”. He smiled at her, held her hand and they walked to God knows where. But Cara didn’t care, she was ok going to mars with him. She thought how Blake being her distraction led to this. “IT WAS A BLACKSTRACTION”
Everywhere stood still to her. Her heart began to beat fast. Two things were at stake now, her grades for Mr Clarks’ course will be affected, and secondly, Blake will think she was rude and unserious. “Get up and leave my class right now, I don’t tolerate students like you in my class. Get out”. Those words struck her like lightning. She felt like a sharp blade just pierced through her heart.
At this point, she just wished the ground would open up and swallow her. She got up in shame, she didn’t even know how to plead and Mr Clark sure wasn’t going to hear anything from her. She left the class and walked down to the college library. All she wanted to do was pick up a sad book and cry into it.
What will they think of me, what will he say to his friends about me? I’ve messed it up. I messed it all up she cried. She finally got to the library, took a book that she had read over and over whenever she was sad, sat down and sobbed quietly into the book. Well obviously because of how quiet the library always is, the library attendant walked up to her. “Hello miss your crying and it’s distracting eve”ryone else. Can we take this outside so you can tell me what’s wrong with you my dear?” She raises her head and stands up to leave quietly with the library attendant. Lila I’ll be out for a while, attend to the students” she tells her assistant.
They found a quiet and perfect place to sit and then the library assistant asks her, “what’s your name?”
She looked up at her and said slowly, “my name is Cara”. The library attendant smiled at her and told her how beautiful her name was. “Well, my name is Diane”. “Hello Diane”, Cara says. “So what is the problem, my dear”.
“Well, I got a bit distracted today at class and got sent out” she said sadly. “So what was your distraction, my dear?” Cara looked down to the ground playing with her feet and replied, “a boy”. Diane smiles softly and pats her hair while she asks for his name.
Cara felt weird telling the library attendant this but at the same time she felt comfortable around her and all she wanted to do was just tell her and feel less burden too. Blake was too much weight already.
“Uhmmmm his name is Blake”. Cara was really shy saying this and couldn’t even look her in the eye. At this point, Blake walks up to them. Oh hello, Cara I’ve been looking for you everywhere. Hello mum. Boom, that struck Cara. Number one, he knows her name, number two, he’s been looking for her and number three, the library attendant is his mother. Somebody, please pinch me.
The night was still young and the wind blew softly against the window. The cool breeze coming in slowly beat against her skin, all she wanted to do was lay down and daydream. This is perfect for a date night with Blake she thought.
Before she knew it she began her daydream and of course, it was all about Blake. But then it didn’t seem to last so long, before she knew it the alarm rang loudly and she woke up with so much fear falling off the bed. “I’m up, I’m up she screamed. Oh goodness, I need to throw this thing away, spoil brat” she cried. Now that she was fully awake she walked slowly to the bathroom to freshen up and head to college. She should be there in 30 minutes and class isn’t till 9:00 am. She checked the time and it was 8:10 am already. “Oh, scoot I’m going to be late” she cried. She hurried up and didn’t even have breakfast, there was no time, she needed to be in class before Mr Clark gets in.
Mr Clark was one of her Lecturers who was really mean and so particular about time. How dare you walk into his classes after he has and she wasn’t ready for all that. She had so much already to worry about.
Luckily she gets to college just 2 minutes before his class and she was glad she was able to get there on time. Ok, that will be enough daydreaming for one day especially on Mr Clarks’ days she thought to herself.
All of a sudden her eyes brightened up, it was Blake, his here. She couldn’t help but stare deeply at him. He looked so amazing and he smelt so good you could smell him 5 miles away. Blake looked right back at her and smiled. At this point, she felt butterflies in her belly. “I will savour this moment” she whispered.
Mr Clark walks into the class and begins lectures. One good thing about his classes was how interesting they could be and she most definitely needed a good degree, a First class and she couldn’t mess that up especially not with his classes. But today was different. She wasn’t listening, she kept staring at Blake, his smile creeping into her mind, she felt chills run down her spine. “You there, in what ways can we get technology to the next level?” Oh no! She wasn’t listening. “I’m talking to you miss”. She still couldn’t hear him. “Hey!” He screamed into her ears. At this point, she jerked and looked up. Now Mr Clark was standing right in front of her. She never felt so embarrassed and she knew this was trouble for her and her grades. The class was watching at this point including Blake.
How long do you have to sit back and think about the past? It’s all gone, it’s over, stop dwelling in the misery, the hurt, the pain, the trauma. I know it’s painful, I know it tore you to pieces. But it’s time to get up, to show the world that nothing and I mean absolutely nothing can bring you down, can dim your shine, can make you give up. Let the world see your star, let the world feel your impact. Don’t let your past limit you, don’t let it mar you. You can do this Claudia. Just let go and fly.
Casey knew how much she wanted to put down words on paper. But then she needed to explore. Explore the world, explore food, people, minds, artefacts, anything at all. She just needs to see more.
But she can’t do that sitting all day in her room, eating chocolate and watching Netflix alone. She had to go out, go out with friends, go out with family and sometimes just go out alone.
“It’s not hard” she thought. There’s the museum, there’s the zoo of cause and I can do some research in my favourite coffee shop. “What’s a writer without coffee” she laughed to herself.
I want to be more but I can’t do this alone. Alone isn’t enough, isn’t always ideal, alone isn’t always perfect, alone isn’t healthy most times and alone definitely won’t get me out there.
At this point, she laughed so loud. And then she got up and stepped out into the world to explore and defeat being alone.
The gentle rush of the wind between her hair, the gentle touch of the beach water on her feet, the feel of the sand between her toes, the swift cool breeze against her skin. Once again she got inspired, the urge to pick a pen and write, the urge to pour out her thoughts on paper. The sea looked beautiful, the sea felt soothing. All she wanted to do was feel this peace every day, she decided I’d carry my journal here. To put down my thoughts in words so bound.
When the sun is pale, and the breeze blows softly, in the early hours of the day, I take a pen, I look through the window and I inspire my mind. The beautiful things of nature, the birds chirping softly, the bell ringing gently in a distance, my fantasy going on a journey. I sit back in my bed with so much to say. I say them on my notepad for the world to see
Fantasies part two Ya so welcome back lovelies to another episode of fantasies. Iāve missed you guys a lot you knowšš. Alright, in our last episode I didnāt define fantasy. Well, I was just too excited to share all my thoughts with you guys. Thatās why right now, Iāll give you a definition of what fantasy is and what I think fantasy is asides from what the dictionary saysššš. Fantasies are imaginary, daydream-like scenarios that individuals play out in their heads. Whether conscious or unconscious, fantasies serve several psychological purposes and are a normal part of most peopleās interior world. This is my definition thoš. Then Iāll give two definitions from other sourcesš¤·. One of them is this, āfaculty or activity of imagining impossible or improbable thingsā. And the second is āan idea with no basis in realityā. This second definition is very very crucialšššand sounds painful I guessš¤·. Indulging in fantasies may seem like a waste of time, but they are far from frivolous. Most fantasies remain just thatāfantasiesš Ok so in my last story I was telling you about my fantasy man. And I said that he was purrrfect and believe me he was. I know, of course, you canāt have everything you want and the exact way you want it and I think thatās why God gave us fantasies š¤š¤. Ok so aside from just having the perfect man, I also wanted the perfect life. Having whatever I wanted to eat, a lot of money yāallšš, wearing the best designer clothes only once and getting new ones everyday š, having the best skin care products and amazing skin, having the best designer shoes, best cars and the latest ones too, Victoriaās secret everywhere šššā¦ā¦I just have a very big and beautiful mind, donāt I?š¤. Well, I love that I can get away from the world with just my mind, stay away from my problems for as long as my thoughts can keep me, and sleep faster by just thinking good and beautiful things. My fantasies to me are the best gift ever and I truly donāt want to lose them everš. Although sometimes, the things we fantasize about arenāt worth it or good most times, I feel the best part of it all is that none of them is real and can just erase for new ones to creep inš
Love The most beautiful thing in the entire world is love and the most painful thing as well is love. But all the same, the beauty of love supersedes the pain of love. A very close friend of mine once asked me this question. It sounded tricky but the answer had to come from within. This was his question āThere are two people involved here, someone you love and someone that loves you. Who will you go for?ā The question sounded simple but it isnāt. Well, a lot of people would say someone that loves them. True it may sound wise to go for someone that loves you when you donāt love the person. But you know what my answer was? I said Iāll go for the one that I loveā¦.sounds stupid right? Hereās why I said soā¦.if I go for the one that I love, I wouldnāt mind their excesses, would even be able to live with them, help them with whatever, go the extra mile with him/her, you can deal with them and enjoy them no matter what. But all this and more canāt be the same with someone you donāt love but this could be different with anyone else. People are different with diverse opinions you knowā¦but this is my opinion guys. Why do people go through heartbreaks? Because their love was hurt and taken for granted. A lot of people love easily while some donāt. Heartbreak is one of the painful sides of love. Weāll talk about heartbreak in my next episode guys cause that topic is one we have to sit down and talk deep aboutā¦..you know, do more research and allš¤·. Another painful side of love is Sacrifice. What do you have to give up for someone, something, some habits, some hobbies, and any other thing just for love? It hurts bro!!!! likeeeeeee itās not gon’be convenient at alllllllll. Another one is ermmmmmmā¦(hold on I got meat between my teeth š¤Ŗ), ok Ya I got it out, where were weš¤ā¦.Oh, I remember, the painful sides of loveš. So, another painful side of love is hard work. Mehn you gotta work hard for what and who you love cause you want to make them happy or it happyš¤Øšš. I wonāt elaborate on that because I donāt have much to say about hard work right nowš¬, thinking and talking about hard work is tiring, guess thatās why itās called āhard workāš¤·. Ok my beautiful and cute readers, I am hungry nowā¦ā¦weāll continue later, maybe in the next two episodesā¦need to do more research on our guest āloveā because omo this thing hard oš¤£š¤£š¤£ā¦bye
FANTASIES PART ONE. When we talk about fantasies, what comes Into our minds, heads, brains, heartsā¦. in fact, our whole being? For a very long time, I have always believed that whatever we fantasize about can happen. Of course, not a lot of people believe that stuff! But these days, I donāt knowā¦.I guess my mind changed about it. Stuff happens… Iāve always wanted to write about this but I guess I didnāt have the right words to express them. Or maybe the right inspiration hadnāt just come. This Is a story of me and my fantasy disasters, cause boy it has been whooo!! One hell of a journey. Every day from when I was little, I always dreamed of everything being perfect. I even named my future boyfriend in my head.. lol. The satisfaction I get when I can get everything I wanted right in my head was exceptional. Sometimes when I wanted pizza, Iād just fantasize about it and voila!!!! It existsā¦.in my head. My fantasies were a way to just get away from the world, from the scoldings’ from mum and dad, from fights with friends or neighbours, from your lonelinessā¦ most importantly. When I was 12, fantasies about my teenage hood were amazing, trust me. The part where I saw myself as the dreamy girl of every guy in my high school. Being treated like an egg, always getting gold stars for good grades, being the hottestā¦.bruh that was the frequent fantasy I always got..lol. Many times my mum caught me talking to myself and she would give me this weird look. The one that says, has she gotten possessed? Trust me, Iām African, Nigerian to be precise and African parents always have this superstitious belief that anyone who talks to themselves is either mad or possessed by witchcraftļ. Nevertheless, talking to myself didnāt stop cause gurl I gotta bring those fantasies to life by talkingā¦.to myself, to the wall, to my dolls, to my fridge, sometimes to my penļ. And did you know that inanimate objects are one of the best listeners? They listen so well and give you complete attentionļ. Ok, so we deviated a bitā¦. Where were we again? Oh yes! My teenage fantasies… Well, it didnāt stop at just being the hottest, getting the best grades and making guys drool over meā¦hell noā¦I explored my mind and believe me, our minds are filled with garbage and candiesā¦(think about it). My first kiss on my head was amazing. Imagine, I got mine under an oak tree. I like outdoor romance.. donāt judge me (chuckles). Ok, so my fantasy boyfriendās name was Kevin Hartāsā¦no reason for that name tho, though it just sounded pretty hot. He was light-skinned cause I love light-skinned guys. He had pink lips, great abs, a great haircut, a nice ass (please do not judge me still ok!!!), an amazing scent and believe guys who smell great is a total thumbs up for me, cute eyes (green to be precise), great car, rich, sweeeeeeeet house, great parents too (that is very important) he was just purrrfectš.
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